“Can ex-lovers still be friends?” A lot of people may have asked the question once in a while. Some might say yes and throw you the famous, “Time can heal all wounds”, others claim that it’s the craziest thing to do when it comes to love. Admittedly, there’s no accurate or even “right” response to it.
But one thing is certain – there are lots of reasons why one can’t and shouldn’t be friends with an ex. Would you still be in touch with the person who gave you so much pain or would you just leave that person in the past? However you may view it, here are some of the reasons why you can’t be friends with your ex anymore:
8The blame game
It’s inescapable to experience a blame game with your ex. This might get worse when you two try to be friends. There will be times you guys would reminisce some moments together which after a bit of a chat, suddenly turns into a fight. This will make you feel bad and eventually result to blaming yourself of the break up.
Being civil with each other, especially when the break up is still fresh, is not a good idea. You don’t want to be reminded of your mistakes and imperfections and vice versa. Pointing fingers to each other will just put your ‘friendship’ level on the ground – be careful, this may just lead to hatred and anger. The bitterness of the break up will dominate your conversation leading you to say hurtful things to one another. To avoid this, keep yourself at a distance with your ex. Forget chatting or simple talks – this can escalate quickly!
